Just because you love someone, doesn't mean you have to be involved with them. Love is not a bandage to cover wounds.
Lynn, she saved half our faction from this stuff," says Marlene, tapping the bandage on her arm from where the Dauntless traitors shot her. "Well, half of half of our faction." "In some circles they call that a quarter, Mar," Lynn says.
Just because you love someone doesn't mean you have to be involved with them. Love is not a bandage to cover wounds.